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Your Questions About Eye Exercises For Lazy Eye

June 2, 2012
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Michael asks…

Me and my mom can’t stop fighting…?

Hello
first the past 4-5 months me and my mom CANNOT stop fighting.
we literally fight at least 4 times a day and i am in tears most of the time im at home.
it always starts when i come home. i unwind and watch TV. when she comes home and finds me watching tv, she gives me this look that is this look of “your lazy you do nothing.” she talks very harshly to me and then leaves.
then she’ll come back about a minute later and will tell me to exercise. i will tell her ill do it later and she’ll be like “well wat time?” and ill say a time and shell yell at me about the time…either that “i never keep my promises” (not true) or that “thats too late bcuz of ______”
so ill just not respond and that will piss her off even more and shell call me a lazy ass or something like that and shell yell that i do nothing but go on the internet (also not true and she knows it) and that i do nothing with my life and that wat im doing is pretty much child abuse blah blah blah.
so i either dont respond because im just trying to relax or if i do i will start yelling because she always makes me very insecure about my weight. they never pack me any lunch and whenever i even ask to get ice cream as a TREAT once every month or so theyll say no. and whenever im trying to eat she will tell me not to eat something but its okay for my sister since shes skinnier.
it really hurts my feelings and i voice this to her but she just shuts me down and yells “IM SORRY IM BEING A GOOD MOTHER AND WANT YOU TO BE AND LOOK YOUR BEST!”
also, she has much stricter rules than any other parent. she hates all my friends which hurts my feelings and wont let me go to their houses. and when i do, she wont give me a ride and if she does she gives me the disapproving look.
and whenever i get a B or something she will flip a shit and yell about how maybe if i wasnt on the internet all the time i could get As.

I feel like nothing I do is right. it hurts my feelings so much that in her eyes I am fat, ugly, stupid, and lazy because I really am not. We fight at least 3-4 times a day and im talking SCREAMING. i never call her names tho or curse like my other friends and theyre moms still dont yell back as much as mine does.
i cry at least twice a day because of wat she says to me it really diminishes my confidence and it makes me feel bad about myself.

wat can we do to improve our relationship? no matter WHAT im doing its wrong. if im reading, i should be cleaning and im stupid and lazy. if im watching tv, im stupid and lazy.

HELP!

admin answers:

You’re not stupid and lazy.
By coming to a question-answer site, you are wise enough to seek help, your even-sided description reveals your fairness and your good-naturedness. You make the effort to understand the people who are difficult to work with. You respond maturely to your mother. I’m sure there is a host of wonderful qualities about you that we don’t even know about, even more will appear as you get older. Breathe, this is all going to work out ok.

Here are just a few tips to help this work out for you:

1. Realize that your mother’s words do not reflect on you, but rather on herself. There’s a lot going on in her mind that you can’t see. I know it’s hard and it’s not always fair, but try to forgive her even if you can’t understand her. Accept what she says as a reflection of her insecurity and conflict in herself, not as a comment about you (which it is not!).

2. Take up art, music, or whatever just to meet new people. Friends can always help you out and yes, I know the experience of being in a school where you have 0 friendly faces and it is painful.

3. If you have someone in real life you can talk to, tell them everything you just said just for the sake of a good conversation. If not, write it down. Forcing yourself into silence is about the worst thing you can do for yourself as it puts you at risk for depression! Find some outlet of expression.

4. This is a little bit superficial, but sometimes it helps if you act over-nice to your mom. Say good morning with a smile every day. When you get home from school, ask her how her day was. Take her out to breakfast (on your own $$ if you can) sometime. It’s kind of pathetic that things as little as that can change people’s affect towards you, but the little things do change matters.

5. I don’t know how old you are, or if boarding school is an option or college soon, but at any rate you really should try to spend as much time as you can out of the house. Don’t make it obvious you’re trying to get away and be nice to your mom while you’re at home. But join a sport if you want, or join the musical, or an orchestra/jazz band if you play an instrument, take up art classes or tae kwan doe or something outside of school that interests you even a little bit and will keep you out of the house after school or something. Maybe see if you can start babysitting or walking peoples’ dogs, you’ll get out of the house more plus you’ll get a little extra spending money. Try to meet new people. Randomly do nice stuff for people you meet on the street, in stores, etc. Smile at people. Your experience at home shouldn’t be a reflection of how people treat you your whole life. Get to know that fact.

Good luck <3

Jenny asks…

Why do people think its okay to descriminate against fat people?

Okay. Two arguments stand. The first is that obesity is self inflicted. People chose what they eat and also make the conscious decision not to do enough or any exercise at all. They are lazy and greedy. Then you have the alternative argument. That it’s self inflicted but the person cannot break out of bad habits. I don’t believe anyone enjoys beings overweight to the point of ridicule. I believe that there are people with slightly higher BMI’s who look amazing and are excepted because of this. For the people that hate how they look and are constantly fighting the battle of falling into a pit of depression, life isn’t so easy.

Here is an example of a typical day – my day in fact.

I wake up at 07:00 Mondays and Fridays, and 8:00 on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday (college timetables?!). So anyway, I wake up for college and get in the shower, I get dressed, do my hair and make up and head downstairs with my school bag and books. When I get down, I go into the kitchen and grab a bowl of cereal that I usually struggle to eat cause its early. I force a glass of water down and head upstairs to brush my teeth. I go back downstairs, grab my bag, put my shoes and cardigan on and head out. I live about a 20 minute walk from my college. I get the occasional lift in, but I usually walk. I get to college and go to lesson. See friends, do revision in the library or go and get myself a coffee. Within this space of time, numerous people would have made comments to me. Saying things like ‘fatty’ or muttering words. Not moving out the way when I say ”excuse me please?”. I am not going to say how much I weigh, my height or my bmi, but I know that I am overweight. When people make these comments I feel hideous but I hide it. Sometimes people literally just keep saying stuff even though it obvious I am offended. I am 17 years old, nearly 18. I shower everyday, I clean my teeth, I wear perfume, I do my hair and make up, I wear nice fashionable clothes that suit my figure (not short skirts of tight tops cause that would look bad and I would feel bad). I am like any other girl in my year except for the fact that I am overweight. For some reason, this gives people the right to say stuff to me?

I have tried dieting. I have tried starving myself and I have tried hiding away from life. I dieted once and lost nearly 3 stone in a couple of months. My nan died and I felt like dieting didn’t matter cause life didn’t matter. That’s how people can feel when they are grieving. I stopped dieting and I started thinking about all the things my nan would never see. Never see me turn 18 or go to uni and get a degree. Never see my children or meet my husband. Never see my turn into a woman because she died when I was still a girl. All of this I deemed more important. But that was 4 years ago. I have accepted all these things but I am still overweight and I haven’t dealt with it.

Being fat isn’t a choice. Nor is it something that I am proud of. When you are not in the situation, you say ”oh I was in their situation I would do something about it” but lets be honest, it is a vicious cycle. I want to lose weight but If I go to the gym, swimming, running or cycling – people will laugh and make me feel stupid and ugly. People criticise fat people for not losing weight, they criticise fat people when they run or swim cause they look FAT! and comical. I know people will read this a write things like – ‘WELL STOP EATING SO MANY PIES’ and I will read it and die with laughter because it is SO.HILARIOUSLY.FUNNY. and SO.ORIGINAL. well done for pointing out the fat people are stereotyped to live off pies. *claps sarcastically*.

Please tell me what you think and I hope that my opinion or view rather, has opened your eyes to something. Maybe you will be able to give me something interesting to think about. Thank you! x
Its nice to see some people aren’t narrow minded and supportive – restores my faith in people slighlty more than before :) -im ignoring the comment by fiona because she is obvious a moron!- I want to add that this ISNT ABOUT ME! This is about the people that discriminate. x

admin answers:

As someone who has struggled for many years to lose weight (or who has lost the same weight over and over again) I can really empathise with you. Not only do people brand you as a lazy overeater, but they can also treat you as if you’re stupid too. Furthermore it is a fallacy that overweight people stuff themselves, I often look at the amount people thin as a rake put away and am absolutely gobsmacked, if I ate like that I’d be the size of a hippo.

Losing weight is far more difficult that stopping other addictions such as smoking or drinking because it is the only habit that has to be continued for survival. All the others you stop and thats that. People who are trying to stop smoking, for exambple, dont have to puff away on a certain number of fags every days to survive. The other factor is that regardless of how well you control your eating, you have no direct control over what the scales will say, and if you have put in your very best effort and not lost anything, it is so demoralising.

I know how the weight issue can get to the point where when someone offers some bright advice you just feel like screaming because you are so sick of the subject. And you have not asked for advice. But after many many years struggling with this issue I do seem to have finally cracked it. I know I cant say for sure becasue I have got a lot of weight still to lose, but I have been successfully losing weight since the b eginning of the year and have lost a stone so far. The reason I am so confident this time around is because everything seems so completely different now and not any difficulty at all, I would like if I may so share with you the things that turned me around from dieting misery to dieting success. If you cant bear to read about it please stop reading here but I do hope I might be able to help a fellow sufferer because I know how bad it feels

1. I bought the Paul McKenna book ‘I can make you thin’ which had a CD with it. Although I got minimum benefit from the book itself, the CD really helps. He talks about how we are all brought up to ‘clear our plates’, finishing everything on it and this messes up our body’s natural ‘i’m full’ signal. Listening to the CD over several weeks reprogrammed my mind to recognise when I was full ulp and to stop there.

2. Do join Weightwatchers, they have a really easy to follow good system, huge support and back up and loads of internet resources, thousands of recipes, tips for success, they teach you how to eat healthily and what foods will make you feel really full up and satisfied. One of the things I learned from them that a sensible weight loss is between half a pound and 2 pounds a week, any more than that is unhealthy, the diet is unrealistic and unsustainable the weight is likely to go back on again.

3. With all the Weightwatchers resources, I starting teaching myself to cook again from scratch, using low fat recipes. I aim to teach myself 5 new things every week, although those things could be anything from soup to a smoothie or a packed lunch, as well as evening meals. I know you are living at home which makes it more difficult to be in controll but I’m sure your mum would be only too pleased to help support you and back you up and either cook some weightwatchers recipes or buy the ingredients to let you make your own. WIth all these new dishes every day I feel like I’m living in a hotel, there is so much variety and enjoyment, I never get bored and never get tempted to eat the wrong things because I am so happy and satisfied eating the things I do.

4. I’ve made myself a chart which is set out like a river crossing with stepping stones across the river. The aim is to get from one side of the river (my start weight) to the other side (my goal weight) broken down into l pound per stepping stone. I have some glittery ‘footprints’ which I stick on each stepping stone as each pound comes down. Ok its a very wide river (probably the amazon or something) but I’ve broken it down into sections and i just concentrate on one section at a time, never looking at the whole picture because that’s too big and overwhelming.

5. The final thing is a bit more deep and it may be that this was something personal to myself, but I’ll tell it anyway in case it helps. I finally looked at myself properly for the first time, like I was looking at another person, and I saw this person who wanted so deperately to be slim and attractive and able to wear fashionable clothes etc. I saw that the only person who could be there for her and help her do what she wanted so much … Was me. I’m doing it for her now….. Well for myself … This may not make sense but I think it comes down to loving yourself enough to do it for you.

I hope this is of help or at least of comfort, and take heart you WILL do it one day, if not now, one day the moment will just be right to go for it and succeed.

Robert asks…

Can overworking at the gym affect your sleep like this? What should I do?

Ok, I’ll try to make this as short as I can.

Nov 08 I was diagnosed with chronic mono, meaning mono that really doesn’t go away; it comes back in cycles every winter. I spent a few months being horribly tired and not even able to keep my eyes open, going to bed at 7pm and sleeping in, plus napping in the afternoon. I was playing competitive badminton at this time., about 9 hours a week though the mono. I forced myself to play badminton because it gets me scholarships, but other than that I was weak and tired.. I hardly even had energy to run to the store and buy groceries, and I hardly did any sort of extra activity. During this time, I had one health problem after another, from colds to the flu to tonsillitis and even problems with digestion.

Around April/May I started to get better, less tired at work, and I could get by with like 10 hours of sleep a night and no naps (usually), though I still took one day each weekend to just rest in bed. Badminton ended so I was exercising less. I was still overall lazy feeling, but definitely an improvement.

Start of June, I started working out doing cardio 20 mins a day, 4 days a week. I started to feel much better. 8 hours of sleep a day was sufficient, I had energy to get up and do things during the day, and my laziness was (mostly) gone. I cut out caffiene (except for here and there after very late nights) and I was actually a bit restless through the day; no urge to nap, and I got a lot done. I had no problem leaving the house to walk somewhere or run errands.

In the last couple weeks I’ve increased my cardio more. I do about 30-40 mins, 5-6 days a week, plus weight training OR 60 mins yoga and pilates every other day. On the days I don’t do strength training, I sometimes do up to 70 mins of cardio (usually split in half). I take 1-2 days off per week where I do nothing. But in the last couple of weeks, I’ve started to feel crappy again. I’m tired, BUT I can’t sleep. I’m up until 1am trying to fall asleep, and end up with like 3 hours of sleep. Then I have to nap at work on my lunch break, and I can’t control falling asleep. I have to drink coffee to stay awake. Simple things like running errands are getting difficult again, but I’m still forcing myself to go to the gym. (And I haven’t lost a significant amount of weight.. Maybe 1lb/week)

Do you think it is possible I’m overdoing it? Am I pushing myself too hard? Or do you think maybe the mono is coming back?(it always only seems to hit in November) Am I maybe not eating enough or something? (i think I’m fine but….). It’s like I feel exhausted all the time, and can’t sleep at night, but yet I can’t control falling asleep at random times for 30 mins or so.

Does anyone have any ideas what I should do or what is causing this?
I don’t drink coffee when I work out.. I work out in the evening and I drink like 2 cups of coffee a week in the mornings.
@Chris I never sleep in, I’m always up at 630 am (when I have to get up for work through the week)

admin answers:

I’ve also had sleep problems for a while but I have managed to pretty much fix them. Here’s how I did it;

Turn off computer + TV, etc. At 9pm.
Do not eat after 9pm, especially sugary foods.
Write down on paper anything that is on your mind preventing you from sleeping.
Set your alarm for early morning and actually force yourself to get up at that time. (IE. Set your alarm for 8am and get up straight away, don’t lie in!) even if you only got 3 hours sleep. You might feel like crap for a few days but eventually it should get back to normal and you’ll gradually start going off to sleep earlier.

I’m now getting off to sleep at about 10:30pm and waking at 8am and I feel great.

You should also go back to your doc about the mono and feeling tired. You might want to ask for some tests (esp. Thyroid and adrenal) and look into CFS (Chronic fatigue syndrome) which can be caused by a mono infection; it basically makes you feel tired all the time and can affect sleep – you have a quite a few of the symptoms.

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Your Questions About Eye Exercises For Better Vision

June 1, 2012
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Maria asks…

Two question! PLEASE RESPOND! one is about a sprained knee and other is why do I keep like blacking out!?

Okay on August 18th or 19th I was playing tennis and hurt my knee. I went to the and he said I just had fluid and it will get better on its own. It never did so he sent me to get x-rays. They said I had a joint e-fusion, and it will get better soon. Next it never did so I was sent to go to an orthopedic surgeon. He wanted me to get an MRI because he thought I tore something. I went back today for the results and he said I had a REALLY bad sprain (one of the worsts he has seen) and that I am not aloud to do any any exercise at all (which is hard for me because I do 6 dance classes, 2 days of tennis, run 1-2 miles everyday,and workout.) So I was wondering about how long it will take to heal. He said if it isn’t better in 3 weeks he has to run more tests :( So please help me out.

Also like once every week or something like that my vision goes all black. I close my eyes and with in 10 seconds it is back to normal. I can’t figure out what is wrong. I do get migraines. I don’t want to tell my mom. Is it anything serious? I get a little shaky at first for like 3 seconds then am fine. Am I blacking out or something?
I mean knee!

admin answers:

As long as you continue stressing your knee, it cannot heal itself. You need to give it a break from running, dance, etc. It is telling you that you can’t keep doing these activities right now or it isn’t going to heal itself – you need to listen. Hopefully, you are also taking some sort of anti-inflammatory medication to help your knee heal.

Regarding the “blacking out”. In younger people, this can be related to dehydration or dieting which is the most common cause. Another cause would be your migraines. If this is a new symptom that accompanies a migraine, you need to be talking to your doctor about your symptoms.

Betty asks…

help with some glasses problems?

SO I am a 14 year old boy n the eighth grade and just got these semi rimless glasses. Now I would be asking my dad these questions but I am afraid he might get kind of mad for reasons I won’t be explaining right now. But anyway I have been having some issues with my glasses. First of all my eyes feel like they are exercising a lot when I where them. Then sometimes I can see outside the glasses zone with my normal vision and the two visions just clash together at the endings of the glasses frame making it hard to focus. Lastly I have pretty good eye sight, but needed glasses to see things farther away. So I’m on the edge of needing glasses really. But I don’t really notice all that much difference with my eyesight seeing far away. I ave a little, but its hard to tell. Is that a good thing? Any feedback would be apreciated.
I know these glasses are the right perscription. but its hard for me to notice, I do notice they are better,, but is this just from just getting them.

admin answers:

They may have given you the wrong prescription. That sounds like a progressive lens, a bifocal with out a line. You may want to tell you dad.

Laura asks…

Two question! PLEASE RESPOND! one is about a sprained ankle and other is why do I keep like blacking out!?

Okay on August 18th or 19th I was playing tennis and hurt my knee. I went to the and he said I just had fluid and it will get better on its own. It never did so he sent me to get x-rays. They said I had a joint e-fusion, and it will get better soon. Next it never did so I was sent to go to an orthopedic surgeon. He wanted me to get an MRI because he thought I tore something. I went back today for the results and he said I had a REALLY bad sprain (one of the worsts he has seen) and that I am not aloud to do any any exercise at all (which is hard for me because I do 6 dance classes, 2 days of tennis, run 1-2 miles everyday,and workout.) So I was wondering about how long it will take to heal. He said if it isn’t better in 3 weeks he has to run more tests :( So please help me out.

Also like once every week or something like that my vision goes all black. I close my eyes and with in 10 seconds it is back to normal. I can’t figure out what is wrong. I do get migraines. I don’t want to tell my mom. Is it anything serious? I get a little shaky at first for like 3 seconds then am fine. Am I blacking out or something?
yeah i guess u r right, and its my knee sorry

admin answers:

Well, im sorry about your ankle, i know how hard it is to sit out of sports, but I broke my ankle and it has been 3 months and I am not close to the finish line ugh! It should get better on its own and do what the doctor says (they always know best!) About your headaches I am not sure but I would bring it up to your mom because it is better safe than sorry!

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